- push yourself to get up before the rest of the world - start with 7am, then 6am, then 5:30am. go to the nearest hill with a big coat and a scarf and watch the sun rise.
2. push yourself to fall asleep earlier - start with 11pm, then 10pm, then 9pm. wake up in the morning feeling re-energized and comfortable.
3. erase processed food from your diet. start with no lollies, chips, biscuits, then erase pasta, rice, cereal, then bread. use the rule that if a child couldn’t identify what was in it, you don’t eat it.
4. get into the habit of cooking yourself a beautiful breakfast. fry tomatoes and mushrooms in real butter and garlic, fry an egg, slice up a fresh avocado and squirt way too much lemon on it. sit and eat it and do nothing else.
5. stretch. start by reaching for the sky as hard as you can, then trying to touch your toes. roll your head. stretch your fingers. stretch everything.
6. buy a 1L water bottle. start with pushing yourself to drink the whole thing in a day, then try drinking it twice.
7. buy a beautiful diary and a beautiful black pen. write down everything you do, including dinner dates, appointments, assignments, coffees, what you need to do that day. no detail is too small.
8. strip your bed of your sheets and empty your underwear draw into the washing machine. put a massive scoop of scented fabric softener in there and wash. make your bed in full.
9. organise your room. fold all your clothes (and bag what you don’t want), clean your mirror, your laptop, vacuum the floor. light a beautiful candle.
10. have a luxurious shower with your favourite music playing. wash your hair, scrub your body, brush your teeth. lather your whole body in moisturiser, get familiar with the part between your toes, your inner thighs, the back of your neck.
11. push yourself to go for a walk. take your headphones, go to the beach and walk. smile at strangers walking the other way and be surprised how many smile back. bring your dog and observe the dog’s behaviour. realise you can learn from your dog.
12. message old friends with personal jokes. reminisce. suggest a catch up soon, even if you don’t follow through. push yourself to follow through.
14. think long and hard about what interests you. crime? sex? boarding school? long-forgotten romance etiquette? find a book about it and read it. there is a book about literally everything.
15. become the person you would ideally fall in love with. let cars merge into your lane when driving. pay double for parking tickets and leave a second one in the machine. stick your tongue out at babies. compliment people on their cute clothes. challenge yourself to not ridicule anyone for a whole day. then two. then a week. walk with a straight posture. look people in the eye. ask people about their story. talk to acquaintances so they become friends.
16. lie in the sunshine. daydream about the life you would lead if failure wasn’t a thing. open your eyes. take small steps to make it happen for you.
Stop Stressing Yourself Out – Part 2: How to Stop The Cycle
After identifying some of the internal stresses that we are putting on ourselves, we can start to see why we are so stressed out. We are carrying a massive burden of stress around with us, and much of it is coming from ourselves. Here’s how to stop the cycle of stress coming from within:
- Focus on you. So much of our internal stress and pressure we put on ourselves starts when we focus too much on other people and comparing ourselves to them. To stop the stress cycle, try to tune out what other people are doing and focus on yourself. Notice how you feel about certain topics, what you feel like doing and make choices based on what you want, not on what other people are doing or will think. Focusing on yourself takes the attention off of comparing ourselves to everyone around us and trying to keep up with them.
- Look at the big picture. When you start to get stressed out about being perfect or having the latest iphone or looking like a celebrity, take a step back and focus on the big picture. None of those things will matter one or five or ten years from now. None of them have a lasting impact on your happiness. Focus on things that will matter in the big picture: family, your happiness, setting goals and taking care of yourself. Don’t get caught up in the internal drama created by the pressure you’re putting on yourself.
Chances are, you’ve heard somewhere that it takes 21 days to create a new habit. Or 28. Or split the difference and call it 24.5.
Where does this information come from? Apparently, out of thin air. You see, there is no basis for the claim that it takes a certain number of days to form a new…